Just Saying

My love affair started a few months back. It started as with all affairs, when we started communicating. It crept up on me. I wasn't even aware it was happening. This relationship which seemed untenable in the beginning. Was turning into something more. You were slowly becoming the best part of my day. Yes, it was still overwhelming and a lot of work but I had hit the sweet part. When you smile at me, it is such sweet joy. You literally light up my world. Okay, enough gushing already. Let's just say it was surprising. The early days were not easy. I was with you the whole day and didn't feel loved. Didn't feel wanted. I felt used. Felt like no one really cared. But like with most things it got better. We evolved and now, we are one. I know this won't last forever but I cherish each moment. Each kiss, every simple hug and I love your laugh most of all.

Happy May day folks. Its officially the fifth month in the year 2015. Have you given up on your new year resolutions? Please don't. I believe its not the so much the individual steps but the whole journey. So yea, you might take 1 or 2 steps back or might stop on the journey. Pick up courage and keep moving. Persistence is its own reward. Happy Workers Day and let's keep the dream alive. Cheers.....

I was passing by on bbm when a friend's update referred me to her new post on Bella Naija. Please read here . It is a story about a girl and her male friend. He likes her, she doesn't have the same feelings. She goes visiting and he tries to sleep with her. In all honesty it wasn't the story that amazed me. It was the comments. Kai, some people showed how desperate they are. A lot of people wondering why she went to visit if she wasn't interested in the guy. Others proclaiming she had thrown away a potential husband. Really!!!!! As in REALLY!!!! So, we are at the level where we accept anyone that is male just because of marriage!!! No words can explain how maddening this is to me. The guy claimed to be in a relationship, promised they wouldn't share a bed and claimed he would make no advances. All these statements went out the window. What didn't the guy do, short of rape and yet, he is a potential husband?  I give up! 

I meant to comment on my facebook page but realized it was too long. I need to start with some context. I was trolling fb and saw  a link to a friend's website. She is into beauty and I think she has done tremendously well for herself. Starting a business, growing her brand and expanding into closely related areas. I checked out her profile and it read thus - My name is________. wife, mother,doctor,blah ,blah , blah. My 1st reaction was.... Ewwww. What does wife and mother have to do with anything. I have always disliked this trend of introducing oneself as a wife and mother. I don't get it. Before you bite my head off, here are my reasons; 1. If you are selling me a lawn mower,what does your marital status have to do with it? or does your lawn mower only mow marital grass? I mean really?? I believe if your business isn't marriage or child related then why mention it? It doesn't make your product sell faster or make your business more high profile. It's all just v...

 The greatest problem with the feminist movement is that WE(the women, as a collective) don't know or can't agree on what we want- Anonymous I have watched with amusement for the most part, this ongoing battle in the media about Sheryl Sandberg's book and organisation - Lean In. Like with most things, there are those that agree with her and those that don't. The interesting thing is how vocal these people(women,of course) have been , throwing couched insults. Now, the discourse has moved to how come women trash other women. The dark side of sisterhood blah blah. This is besides the point. And honestly, if this is what feminism is about, count me out. The great idea behind feminism, is being able to have 'IT' all. But I think the point is, we never really sat down to define what 'IT' means. Some people want to work, have successful careers and  be there for their family. I think that's what 'IT' has come to stand for....

I was going to share a story about the pressure a friend was getting from her folks about marriage. But decided maybe I should make this interesting and ask people to share some of the more 'interesting' comments they have received about why they are unmarried. Also interesting schemes you've heard or experienced concerning marriage. please no- she got pregnant stories. they have been played out. Thanks I'll start this off with a few. Please drop yours in the comment box - Have you graduated with your MRS degree yet? - During a prayer session- God if she has used her husband to do 'ako' in the past. Lord, forgive her. Please let him come back. - Hasn't prince Charming showed up yet? Will add more as I think of them...

I have a pretty simple question. Why does a woman/man become a mistress? I mean, ignoring or putting aside the socio-economic reason that is touted most times. How satisfying is it really to have a man/woman that is only there half the time,if it's even up to half.  Someone you can't call at the drop off the hat. Can only provide you with their full attention once in awhile and can walk out on you or deny you whenever. I mean, you can't possibly show off this person. For all you Instagram addicts, you can't put up pictures of you and this 'special person'. You definitely can't 'loud' this relationship. So, in some ways,as my sister puts it - it's a hole in the corner affair. Well, I think there must be some kind of thrill for these people. It's the same way an addict gets high. They enjoy the thrill of a new relationship. One that only 'they' know about. They pretend in public but get 'high' in private. They discover...