Cougarville!!

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Read about Toyin Lawani's engagment this morning. She said yes to her 21 year old boyfriend. And I read with utter delight and amusement the comments that followed. Read it HERE! The 1st comment was child molestation and child's play = jail time. hahahahaha. Totally hilarious.

Beyond the main subject matter of an older woman dating/getting married to a younger man and beyond the maturity question. I would like to bring to your attention the more subtle issues.  Had the case been reversed, less people would raise an eyebrow. There would even be jokes like - catch them young,help them grow. Men would congratulate the guy about his 'accomplishment'. And people would wish them well all round. Isn't that hypocritical of us as a people? Is the 21 year old female more mature? Does she really understand what she is about to do? Is she more prepared?Is a 21 year old(male/female) able to make that kind of decision?


My other point is more a question. Is it soo wrong for a woman to date a younger man? Does the age difference matter? 1 year,2 years,5 years.....10 years?  And this leads me to other questions - Is 10 years too much? Would it be better if they were both older, say a 35 year old woman and a 25 years old man?

Just some food for thought. We are often comfortable looking in 1 direction but shouldn't we try to approach it from several angles?

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